70 Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone

The best questions to get to know someone are easy to answer but open enough to lead somewhere: where they grew up, what they do on a free Saturday, what they would do with a year off. Below are 70 of them, from easy icebreakers to deeper questions, plus sets for a first date, a new coworker and a group. Start light and go deeper only when the conversation does.

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70 Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone
In this article
  1. How to get to know someone with questions
  2. Easy icebreaker questions
  3. Fun get to know you questions
  4. Deeper questions to get to know someone
  5. Get to know you questions for a first date
  6. Get to know you questions for coworkers
  7. Get to know you questions for a group
  8. Turn it into a game

How to get to know someone with questions

  • Start easy. Icebreakers first. Deep questions only land once the other person feels comfortable.
  • Follow up. “What was that like?” and “Why that one?” are the best questions on this page.
  • Swap. Answer your own questions. People open up when you do.

Easy icebreaker questions

  1. Where did you grow up, and what was it like?
  2. What do you do on a perfect day off?
  3. What is something you are into right now?
  4. What is the best thing you have eaten recently?
  5. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
  6. What is your favorite way to spend a rainy day?
  7. What show are you watching at the moment?
  8. Do you have any pets, or want one?
  9. What is your go-to coffee or tea order?
  10. Beach holiday or city trip?
  11. What is the last thing you got excited about?
  12. What is your favorite season, and why?
  13. What music have you been listening to lately?
  14. What is a place near here you love?

Fun get to know you questions

  1. What is a skill you have that would surprise people?
  2. What is the strangest job you have ever had?
  3. If you could have dinner with anyone, alive or dead, who would it be?
  4. What is a food you could never give up?
  5. Which fictional character are you most like?
  6. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what is the first thing you would buy?
  7. What is your most-used emoji?
  8. What is an unpopular opinion you hold?
  9. Which superpower would you choose?
  10. What is something you are terrible at but enjoy anyway?
  11. What would be your theme song?
  12. If you could live in any city for a year, where would it be?

Deeper questions to get to know someone

  1. What is something you are proud of?
  2. Who has had the biggest influence on you?
  3. What is a decision that changed the course of your life?
  4. What is a goal you are working toward right now?
  5. What do you value most in a friendship?
  6. What is a lesson you learned the hard way?
  7. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  8. What is a memory you go back to often?
  9. What do you wish people asked you about more?
  10. What is something you changed your mind about recently?
  11. Where do you feel most at home?
  12. What makes a day a good day for you?

Get to know you questions for a first date

  1. What made you laugh this week?
  2. What is the best trip you have ever taken?
  3. What is your idea of a fun weekend?
  4. What is something you would like to learn?
  5. What are your friends like?
  6. What is something people get wrong about you?
  7. What do you love about your job, or what would you rather be doing?
  8. What is the last thing you did for the first time?
  9. What is a perfect evening for you?
  10. What is the next thing on your calendar you are excited about?
  11. What do you do to relax?
  12. What is your favorite restaurant around here?

Get to know you questions for coworkers

Work-safe and easy to answer in a meeting or over lunch.

  1. What did you do before this job?
  2. What is the best piece of career advice you have ever received?
  3. What is something you do outside of work that you love?
  4. What was your first job?
  5. Which app could you not live without?
  6. What is the best book or podcast you have come across this year?
  7. Where is your favorite place to travel?
  8. What is something you have learned recently?
  9. Which skill would you like to get better at?
  10. If you could swap jobs with anyone for a day, who would it be?
  11. What is your ideal lunch break?
  12. What is one thing that always improves your workday?

Get to know you questions for a group

Go around the circle. Everyone answers the same question.

  1. What is your name, and what is the story behind it?
  2. What is the best concert or event you have been to?
  3. What is something on your bucket list?
  4. What is a hidden talent you have?
  5. Which movie could you watch over and over?
  6. What is the best advice you have ever received?
  7. If you could take a trip anywhere next month, where would you go?
  8. What is something that always cheers you up?

Turn it into a game

Questions are easier with a bit of structure. Try Two Truths and a Lie, the 21 questions game, or this or that questions for fast, low-pressure answers.

Duoo is an iPhone and iPad app with party games for two to eight players, including Would You Rather, Never Have I Ever and Who’s Most Likely To. They’re good for breaking the ice because the phone asks the questions, not you. It works offline on one phone. It is free to download, and a subscription with a free trial unlocks every game and category.

More lists: questions to ask friends, questions to ask a girl, questions to ask a guy and questions to ask your partner.

Save these lists for later

Screenshot them for game night or save them to Pinterest.

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Questions

What are good questions to ask to get to know someone? +

Start with easy, open questions: "What do you do on a perfect day off?", "Where did you grow up, and what was it like?" or "What is something you are into right now?" They are simple to answer and give you something to follow up on.

What are good get to know you questions for adults? +

Ask about choices and experiences, not just facts: "What is a job you would do for free?", "What is the best decision you made in the last few years?" or "Which place surprised you the most?"

How many questions should you ask when getting to know someone? +

Fewer than you think. A good question with two follow-ups beats ten quick ones. Answer each question yourself too, so it feels like a conversation and not an interview.

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